We all are living in good health and your sisters are studying without any break in their academics. My father replied calmly when I was fumigating in frustration and yelled what did I achieve??, in my living room on one Sunday afternoon after 3 years of my post graduation.
I wasn’t sure of my trigger(s) that day and why I was so hard on myself. I claimed that “I have achieved nothing”. Whereas, most of my peers are making handsome money with renowned employers.
May be I lost my patience for almost a decade of tough life and still wasn’t sure what is stopping me. Somehow, I was longing to say good bye for my involuntary acceptance on challenges under my circumstances deep inside. But, could’t and felt sucking into never ending circumstances.
Those soothing words from my dad weren’t actually soothing from inside. Yet, his words gave me a change in my perception and the way I looked at myself.
The silence after his words also reminded me of a story which he had been telling me in my formative years. A person visited a construction site and asked “what are you doing?” to 3 different workers. First worker said, “can’t you see, i’m putting these bricks over there for scrimpy daily wage”; second worker said, “I’m working for my family, i’m prime bread winner at my family”; and third worker replied, “I’m happy to be part of constructing this beautiful monument”. It’s same work but three people had three different perspectives.
On my way back to work location after my weekend trip, I made my attitude with a choice and strive for my family development rather than mine from that day.
Months later I was asked to go to Africa on a project. Accepted with grace and later with same spirit on my abroad opportunities to expand my horizons.
But this one questions always bothers me…. what did I achieve in my life?
Once, a friend said to me that i’m a successful person. I simply smiled for his gesture and denied his claim. This had been repeated couple more times with other friends on another context yet I was not ready to accept because we know people who love us talk only good about us.
When I ponder over my 15 years work experience, today I feel much better and for sure I have achieved something. I’m in agreement with every word of life and business strategist Tony Robbins – “People overestimate what they can achieve in one year and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade”.
I urge you all to take a time to review your short term and long term goals with the above perspective.